The main part about being a human which sometimes people neglect.
Feelings.
I mean, people will neglect about feelings when it is not their feelings at "risk" or so to say - it is perfectly normal. A way to put it, this is natural for most humans on earth. In fact there is only a minority that would actually think so much before they even say something which explains on why I do not have that many friends too. I mean I have friends but not that many that I would refer to as friends but instead acquaintances. A hi-bye relationship kind of thing. Friends to me is a very complicated thing which takes years for me to understand.
Anyway, back to the topic. Why do I say I lose friends by not understanding their feelings? Erm.. for a friend, you actually needs to know what is supposed to be said and whats not. For me, I had been very "cautious" about the words I used and so on just to please their ears but as for now, I think being straightforward is pretty much a better choice for me as I find that the objective of asking a blunt question is pretty stupid!
what's the point of asking a blunt question when you actually "set" the answers. Like a normal routine kinda thing, a woman will ask the husband, "Am I fat?" or "How do I look?" All the husband had to do was to assure the woman on how good the wife looked and does not have to change a thing and if EVER the husband said, " you need to lose those weight" or even say "that dress doesn't compliment your figure" denotes the end of peace-no-war moment. Simply said, the woman felt hurt. It's her feelings.
Aside from this couple thing, friends do have problems about understanding the feelings of one another. I have had moments about a person seeking advice from me but when I said about my thoughts about it, she broke down and said that I am "stupid". Hah! Luckily, I wasn't that stupid to actually go across the table and give her a bitch slap or even pulls her hair and then actually use a hammer and knock some sense into her. She seeked for advice and said that the problem is about her friend but instead it is about her. Okay, I understand she is trying to hide her problems and feel paiseh or something but then she have no exact right to say I am "Stupid" right??
Hah. So, who give a damn about my feelings? No one. So why should i?
And then,
STOP asking me why am I so straightforward.
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